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A friend there told me that they are really not seductive guys and that they are not comfortable when they talk to woman... Why?
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Dear Gao:
posted by Daniel Otero in China forum
There is an old Spanish saying, "Necessity is the mother of all inventions." China has had to open up even more in the last 21 years. But this is valued in part by the Government and before it was impulsed by men like Deng Xioapeng.
Conficius once said, "Catch a fish for a man, and he will eat one day! Teach him how to fish, and he can eat for a lifetime." China has done it well, but it can do it better. But it also needs to teach people not only to follow, but to think for themselves. This is common in relationships in which I notice that not only the couple is involved, and also the parents and my God, even the grandparents. This is a recipy for disaster in life.
The Europeans hurt China a lot in the 19th and 20th Centuries. However, before, the Ming empire after it reached its maximum glory ordered the borders to be closed up in the 14th Century, affecting Chinese influence across the world. Just because the Emperor stated, "We are the center of the Universe". What I am trying to say that Chinese leadership has done great things, and on the other hand, certain periods of closure have destroyed a great and wonderful society. This should not happen again, it has sociological effects on the people.
For example, did you know that there is a male-female disparaty in China. The problem will become worse in 20 years. In which, 23 million males will not be able to find women. This is something that is affecting a society, since there are still traditions that favor males rather than the female. It is a problem...
You are an impressive young man. Which city did you live in Germany?
Sincerely,
Daniel
P.S. Only Eastern Chinese are trying to behave more like people from the west.
about Seclusion orders for Daniel
posted by Ziyao Gao in China forum
it is true there was a seclusion orders since
Yuan Dynasty 1206-1368 (the dynasty buillt by Kublai Khan, son of Genghis Khan) (disctete16 years between 1292-1322)
also in
Ming Dynasty 1386-1644 ( limited open to restrict milltary technolgy flowing into Japan)
and mainly in
Qin Dynasty 1616-1911 (to block opium trading from UK, later on the Opium commission was started by US in Shanghai Peace hotel)
only in this time, China lost the chance to get positive influence from europa. so this time the order really did work as the blocking.also this appear in other asia countries (from 1633 to 1854 in Japan)
it is my hobby to read chinese history,i would be happy to discuss with you about that. Also europe history, especially germany part.
Dear Daniel
posted by Ziyao Gao in China forum
i appreciate the way you consider the problem, so to speak, relating history with phenomenons in the modern society.
In fact even in Bus stop of China, you see strangers begin to talk all the time. That i never saw in Germany ,in fact i never saw two strangers talked in streets or buses.(nothing negative, just to say we also like to communicate) And if we have big problems to communicate with others, how could we trade all over the world?
I really dont know how did the people before Mind Dynasty look like, i'm afraid i could not dig out a Terracotta Army guy from the tomb to show you guys. XD XD
maybe i think we have a different way to date, can you image my grandpa did not date? He met my grandma for the first time in the wedding day, his parents chose his wife for him.(sounds like open a present, but it was true!) that's ofcourse old story, any way you will see chinese behave more and more like western people in future, i believe so.Dear Maria:
posted by Daniel Otero in China forum
It's called historical isoloation. China has been through this twice, once with the Ming Dynasty, in which they were an empire and then the Maoist regime.
Now, their shyness comes from lack of experience and exposure to other cultures. Plus, good role models to teach in their education how to be more outgoing.
Yes, in China it is worse for males in their teens and 20s. Then, as they become more confident, they are more outgoing. But their uptightness can come from their educational system, parents that are very shy or insecure and now that China is openning up most young Chinese are slowly realizing that they need to change to adapt to the rest of the world, if not: they will be extremely unsuccessful, unhappy and always tied to what their parents say.
Not only culture has made them this way, but their leaders by isolating them from others. You will see this when they date, how inadequate they feel and if you date a 24 year old young man, you will notice his behaviour like a 16 year old. Quite common! So, some young people are realizing that is time for a change...
Take care,
Sncerely,
Daniel
Uptight!
posted by Deleted user in China forum
Well that's true that sometimes Chineses men are really stranges for relationships. I date once for two months and he was so... uptight! Like he never shows any feelings, was really cold and I guess he is not an isolate case because all my Chineses friends are like that as well. Chineses men really have problems with feelings and relationship and I am talking mainly for Chineses expats so I cannont even imagine how it is like in China. It must be worse!
And I have a theory on that : maybe they want so badly to protect themselves that they have built walls around themselves. What do you think?Dear Gao:
posted by Daniel Otero in China forum
I know, no problem... Just an old man blabbering about past experiences and trying to give a little wisdom. So the mistakes of the past are not repeated...
Take care,
Daniel
Dear Gao:
posted by Daniel Otero in China forum
I hope that neither of you have to see combat. What I saw 21 years before will truly blow your mind.
That's why Free Trade equals peace.
China had a brutal history, in which it lost between 50 to 67 million people in the past draughts and famines. And that's not even counting what China lost in the Civil War and before with the war with Japan.
Take care guys and be safe,
Sincerely,
Daniel
does it mean
posted by Ziyao Gao in China forum
if i would join the chinese Army, one day we would meet each other in the fields?
you are funny...hey
posted by Ziyao Gao in China forum
in this point, i think Daniel is truely right.
i think we would feel happy to know a guy from states can say something like that.