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How to treat a German woman the right way...

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To me that's a really difficult question! It's always a bit harder to date somebody of another culture, but with German girls I just don't get along!
I know the 'traditional' dating rules, for example the guy has to pay everything - but in Germany I heard that some girls get offended by this because their independence is questioned.
Whatever you do, you do it wrong!

What did you experience? Girls are also welcome to join this discussion!

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  • Constantin Radulescu

    New guy in Ingolstadt

    posted by  Constantin Radulescu in Germany forum 

    Hey there,

    I'm pretty new here and I am looking to date a german woman but I don't know how to approach one here..damn.
    The main thing is that my German skills are not so good :(

    Could you gve me some hints?

  • Mo Osman

    Hey

    posted by  Mo Osman in Germany forum 

    Well cool subject!
    Here are some advices:
    - Always be well dressed
    - Treat her normally and slowly show your interest. I used to invite the girl for a date, it usually went pretty well, then i sent her a little sms after saying that it was a great time and that i hope she enjoyed it as i did. Then i totally ignore her for a 4 days or week period! if she contacts me then it is super! if no then i will re-contact her asking how she is doing and what's new and so on...at this stage things should be clear!
    Resume: Treat her good at the date then ignore her a little: she will fall if you play your cards right.
    - Girls in Germany are impressed by confident guys: so lead the way for her and be very gentle.
    - keep acting cool and calm! when you hurry she will leave you! they are cold until they fall!

    Cheers!
    A.!

    p.s. try something crazy like calling her at midnight: it works :-)

  • Hey About German Women

    posted by Deleted user in Germany forum 

    Good for you that you have experienced the other side. Well, I am American on the low-side (not a lot of money), but for the most part, most women are becoming familiar to the Western World. This could be a good thing or bad thing, so be it! I am deeply appauled by the need for a good man, but whatever. When I was visiting Maryland Heights, Missouri, I met Oliver-Pure German, and he treated me right until he started eating my toes...hahahha. Not my type, but still think about him once in a while. Wished something could have happened when he was calling me soo much. I feel bad. Love you Oliver

  • Hey About German Women

    posted by Deleted user in Germany forum 

    Good for you that you have experienced the other side. Well, I am American on the low-side (not a lot of money), but for the most part, most women are becoming familiar to the Western World. This could be a good thing or bad thing, so be it! I am deeply appauled by the need for a good man, but whatever. When I was visiting Maryland Heights, Missouri, I met Oliver-Pure German, and he treated me right until he started eating my toes...hahahha. Not my type, but still think about him once in a while. Wished something could have happened when he was calling me soo much. I feel bad. Love you Oliver

  • Rudi Aji

    Germans or Not Germans?

    posted by  Rudi Aji in Germany forum 

    @Inna Minch: Nice answer. I think she just said it just right there.

    I came from Indonesia, spent 6 weeks in I don't know, maybe 25 or 30 different camping sites while we were traveling around the Netherands & Germany with our camper car. Met so many new people, and met girls too, talked to most of them by starting a simple conversation, got to know the stories of some of them, but ONLY really fell for just ONE in Malchow. And apart from cultural differences and 5 hours time-zone apart, we compromised, I for her and she for me.

    I think German girls ARE girls, I mean, I don't think there's really any rules to follow so to say. I think deep in our minds we know how to treat a woman with r.e.s.p.e.c.t, then everything else might have a chance. And as for me, the most important question you need to ask yourself before going to a girl is: what do you want with her in the first place?

    Know your goal, then you'll know how to get there.
    Cheers!

  • Inna Minch

    Be yourself

    posted by  Inna Minch in Germany forum 

    Hi Fernando, I think the best way is just to be yourself . You seem to be handsome and smart , just flirt with girls and they will love it. Make compliments, German girls need to get a bit spoilt! (they do not get it much here) .

  • Go to Vanz Couger's profile

    How should I treat this German girl

    posted by  Vanz Couger in Germany forum 

    Hey... I met this German girl. We have been sms's back and forth and before we met for the date she asked me for advice. I just replied with something silly, but apparently she wanted me to tell her how to dress and was pretty pissed off with me. Although the date went on pretty well, I dont know what to do next. Oh and before we met for the date I sms'd her and told her it would take more than good looks to charm this boy which she did not like. Any advice?

  • Chase Ellison

    If you think things can't get worse its only because you lack imagination.

    posted by  Chase Ellison in Germany forum 

    I suppose I should be happy that I am a smart ass and not a dumb ass... Does this mean I am the winner?

  • Chase Ellison

    Creativity is the sudden cessation of stupidity.

    posted by  Chase Ellison in Germany forum 

    I suppose I try not filter myself regardless of how well a person knows me.. They should find out how much of an odd ball from the get go rather than be surprised in the future. Although, I do agree with you humor is universal, I was just curious if sarcasm is received well in Germany or if its a social faux pas. What can I get away with? Murder :-P

    Chase

  • Chase Ellison

    Give me ambiguity or give me something else!

    posted by  Chase Ellison in Germany forum 

    Ug likes! Ug Takes!

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