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Living in South Africa, do you feel that there is a stigma against interracial couples? This can be a touchy subject, so please remember etiquette when commenting.

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  • posted by  in South Africa forum 

    I'm studying at Rhodes University where interracial couples are quite normal and very accepted, hopefully this mentality will spread to the whole country. Hope is not lost :)

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    Personal preference

    posted by  South African in South Africa forum 

    I think it's a matter of personal preference.

    It's most likely not about race, but more about tribes - tribes marry their own people, and don't have the global view of "meh, anybody's marriage material".

  • posted by  in South Africa forum 

    I think Isaac question is about stigma against interracial couples not crime.
    Black and white or problems related to interracial relationship are not only South African. It is even more difficult in the white side. You should know that black or African are more tolerant that white. I have research and wrote a book about it in 2008. My research came from my personal experience.
    I was married to a white German lady as black in South Africa. My wife was accepted, integrated and loved by everyone. But at work some white folks found it strange even if they were not saying it. On the contrary my black colleagues and friends were ok. Sometimes I was just teased by black ladies asking me if they were not beautiful enough for me or if we were different. Yes for jokes.
    When we moved to Germany in 2002, my white family in-law rejected me and for 7 years in Germany they never saw me or welcome me in their homes. This situation really affected our marriage. On the other side, I tried to date white South African ladies. It is not possible if you are not a star or from a certain circle. As Nadia Scott said, it will take time. But it will take more time from white people side to become color blind.

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    posted by  in South Africa forum 

    I agree with Peter Williams.

  • posted by  in South Africa forum 

    black and white , sounds like ying and yang ! we need each other , that balance , we need black people in our lives just like black people need white people and that counts for all races by the way. I dont know what color your woman is but that is not a problem anymore , why do you even care what people think of the person you supposedly love? cape town is a magical place and I'll take a bet on this , people may think its wrong but they wont say it to your face , and if they do you can respond with these words , JOU MA SE PEOS.... we all know wha that means but I doubt you wil have to resort to them.

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    posted by  in South Africa forum 

    Hi, Isaac

    In a country as diverse as South Africa there is bound to be a bit stigma not only against inter- racial relationships. Don't pay attention to negative people, I think its a case of sticks and stones.

  • posted by  in South Africa forum 

    In the more developed areas, i.e. Saburbs, cities, etc... People are generally more accepting. This is because when you are staying in a more developed and busy city like Cape Town, Johannesburg and Durban, there are a lot different cultures, races, religions etc. that you are exposed to on a daily basis. In essence you are basically forced to understand these differences and respect them, it either that or you leave. So understanding and respecting people's differences is a learned behaviour in developed areas of South Africa and you will find that people are a lot more accepting of interracial couples in those areas.
    Like Nadya Dowling said, there are still the generation that was at the height of apartheid, those people and their mindsets are only present in the rural areas and the farms. And that mindset is present in all the races that reside in these rural, farm, township areas.

    So developed areas yay, underdeveloped areas nay.

  • Nadya Scott

    posted by  in South Africa forum 

    My Fiance is SA and he is white, I am American and latina. 1/2 of his family accepts us.The other does not. The more urban side seems to be less judgmental. He said on his last visit in 2010 you can see more mixed couples but not many.We plan to move there soon but we are planning to get some flack. Things are better but not great. Then again slavery wasn't fixed overnight and apartheid only ended 15 years ago..The generation of apartheid in it's height are still alive. As their beliefs and it's still how some have raised their children which is my generation. So you still can see the ripple..however in time things will hopefully improve.

  • posted by  in South Africa forum 

    Good day Isaac. I am born in South Africa 1968. I am a white lady with 3 boys. There are definate racial differences in South Africa. I was beaten with a brick and had my bag stolen. My department was broken into and everything stolen. My car was stolen and my mother was killed. And all of them were crimes by black south africans. I will never hurt a fly or be cruel to anybody. This is realy hurtfull.

  • Jhan Langley

    posted by  in South Africa forum 

    No not at all, as long as you are an honest law abiding person who has respect for others you should receive the same respect.

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