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Why is it so hard to make friends in Switzerland??

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Is it just me or is it really hard to find some people in Switzerland who are willing to make good friends with you (especially to foreigners)??
I've been there for only 6 months and I heard you need at least 3 months to completely settle down there so maybe I've been there just too short...what do you think?

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  • ali mohajer

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    Is it just me or is it really hard to find some people in Switzerland who are willing to make good friends with you (especially to foreigners

  • Viktoria Björklund

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    I would say it is very hard to get to know somebody in switzerland on your own. My boyfriend has intreduced me to some of hes friends and that makes it alot easier. But there still have been times when we have been at dinners with his friends for hours and i keep trying to talk to them but they totally ignore me and just talk very fast in swissgerman with eatchother.. But im not giving up because i know that everyone in one country cant be the same and ive also meet some really nice swiss people. Anyways if anyone around bern would like to take a coffe or something be sure to let me know:)

    (and excuse my english writing its terrible)

  • Maximo G.

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    I am not exactly that kind of just landed but after 3 years things have just slightly improved compared to the first 3 months. Last Friday I got offered a beer by an unknown person for the first time (by the way it was a dj at the Luna).. can you believe that? In Paris it took 3 days, when I first entered a pub in st michel; and I still keep in contact with those guys and still have fun when I see them.. That said, yes the Swiss environment is not exactly the best place to meet up with people from scratch but it's their country and life-style and if I were a Swiss I would probably enjoy it; but I am not (Swiss)... I understand you when you say "I am the only one who stays! its terrible". I am starting to think that this is the expat's destiny; you stay and your friends leave, your friends leave and you stay, like a sort of "highlander".. "There's no time for us, there's no place for us". Cheers.

  • ekin senturk

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    when i arrived here for 3 months i cried everyday. i had no friends, no language, no internet at home!!! i was homestayin with and 80 years old lady, we couldnt understand each other, evrything was terrible.
    but with the time, at language school, i made some friends. but still i have problems, cause all of my friends from german speaking part of switzerland, and they are comint to lausanne for just couple of months, then they leave. so all of my friends are temporary. i am the only one who stays! its terrible!
    its so obvious that swiss people are not easy to be friens. but indeed, after spending so much time with them, they are as friendly as the other countries citizens. its just you need some time, they dont get used to people quickly.
    in general i can say that they never refuse you invite them drink couple of beers, or going lakeside all together, try it! that kind of cosy places makes you easily communicate.

  • Linda .

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    Hello Everybody,
    I am living in Geneva for more than 1 year and looking for new friends. I have just found this topic and I'm very happy to see these many members!
    I am working in the legal area and learning French…but it is not an easy language, so I would prefer English first.
    I am opened to speak about almost everything, to discuss our experiences, the good shopping places :-) and to have a coffee or tea sometimes.
    Thanks, Linda

  • Mansal D

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    Well they aren't all unwelcoming (if what you say is true) because your husband has married you and (I presume) loves you very much!

    Just keep trying - if one person does not wish to speak to you much, then don't. Move on to another reasonable person. There are millions, you know? ;-)

  • Mansal D

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    Depends where you live, but it would benefit you to learn one of the major languages (German, Italian, French). Picking up bits of the other ones shouldn't hurt either.

    Mein Deutsch ist nicht so gut, aber ich versuche ;-)

    Tschüss, Mansal

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    Hi

    posted by  Mary G in Switzerland forum 

    So you are happy living there?

  • posted by Deleted user in Switzerland forum 

    Hey guys!
    Now as I read your replies, it seems to me like all my friends who told me about their more or less bad experience in Switzerland was just because they stayed there too shortly (maybe). Or it was their Italian temper scaring them all off in the first place ;)

    Regards

  • Pauline Pham

    posted by  in Switzerland forum 

    Genau (exactly) Claudio!!! I've been here since August and can validate what you say. My partner is Swissie and I know from him that lifelong friends are the most important to him (ie.school friends, uni friends, friends he's known for 10years) and there is not much room for "new" friends. I've got instant access to his network of friends and I can tell you that once they like you and trust you, they are very sincere and generous and will stand by you. We lived in Australia for a couple of years (ok, I lived there my whole life, but with him a couple of years) and he made friends but the level of friendship was not so deep and when he went through a tough period, not all those friends could be relied upon, and that I think is the difference between people who tell you you're their "mate" (friend) instantly (very Australian!) vs people who are slow to befriend but then are a true friend. So good friendships take time to develop. It is probably faster to make friends from the expat community though, but don't give up on the Swissies! :-)
    PS. Loud, obnoxious, self-promoting people will have less chance of making friends with Swiss who tend to be conservative and possess much humility.

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