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Why is it so hard to make friends in Switzerland??

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Is it just me or is it really hard to find some people in Switzerland who are willing to make good friends with you (especially to foreigners)??
I've been there for only 6 months and I heard you need at least 3 months to completely settle down there so maybe I've been there just too short...what do you think?

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  • جائیں اس یوزر کےJim Jackson's پروفائل پر

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    I have to agree with many of you. Switzerland is a boring country with many boring people. They are very selfish and very ignorant about other cultures. They think they live in the best country in the world and that is because they are a bunch of paysants livig with cows and they have not been out of their country to get to know other people with other cultures. In fact you see more cows in Switzerland than people. They hate everybody. I lived there for 4 years and I hated it. Lots of descrimination againts almost everybody who is not swiss. The poor africans are treated worst than animals. The swiss are very arrogant with very high rate of suicide . In fact I would have commtte suicid if I stayed there longer. In my opinion, Switzerland is very clean mental hospital for people with very serious mental problems. Do NOT go there if you are a normal person.
    They claim they are the best democrcy in the world. Incorrect, the democracy there works or the Swiss ONLY an nobody else!!! JIM

  • Juan Ubide Barreda

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    ¿Conoces esa zona? Vivo en los Molinos /Do you know that zone? I live in Los Molinos.

  • جائیں اس یوزر کےsteven wenger's پروفائل پر

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    hola juan gracias por responder
    i hope situation gets better here,from what part of spain are you i lived in madrid 15 years bern is so so diferent in all.

  • Juan Ubide Barreda

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    I'm sorry for you because it's veru sad for me. I'm not a tipycal Spanish happy,sociable and sympathetic but the family and the friends are importants. Living without these things ist impossible, i think.

    I hope that it will be better for you.

    Schöne Grüsse und Bis bald.

  • جائیں اس یوزر کےsteven wenger's پروفائل پر

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    im also in this situation,in my case it,s even worst i was born in switzerland but i lived most of my live in spain and now i came back here to this boring switzerland.
    i remember my childhood still in switzerland was not so bad had a lot of friends but i was more swiss minded and of course they where people than i knowed since kindergarden that tipical swiss they will befrend in most cases only people they now since kindergarden,school,military or work.
    they are really stubbern about knowing people in other places they dont want to know new things or people it,s like a swiss rule a no that not corect,dont speak or smile to people you dont know 10years...
    when i came back again to switzerland one of the first thing i made was to try to contact the people that played with me when i was a kid,i went to the village where i lived and i wass happy to see them specially i talked with my best girl friend after long time talking i asked her phone number,i called her 4 days later to meet for a drink
    and i wass sorprised of her reaction she sayd in a bad arogant tone lisen i dont want to date you.
    now im almoust 3 year,s here and believe or not it,s so hard to know people i try all the time.
    of course i know some people but it,s not so easy to meet swiss people they are complicated even to go for a coffe and they always are busy and tired of they work
    for the swiss they work is more important than familly friends...
    to many times i meet swiss people it can be so boring they speak so much of their work and of rules and how proud they are of switzerland.
    i live in bern i find other city,s like zurich and specially the french swiss more open and friendly.

  • Lisa H

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    Hello, I am new to the site... Moving over the Geneva in Jan for work. Currently live in London. I am looking to make new friends and keep active... by the sounds of things its not easy to make friends - is this true ? Also - apartments are they really expensive to rent ?

    I am really looking fwd to coming over, but so many ppl have said I will be really lonely because its impossible to make friends... and this worries me..

    Any suggestions ?

    Thanks
    Li

  • Juan Ubide Barreda

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    Ciao Agostino.

    Io per essempio sono spagnolo ma non sono un uomo molto allegro, simpatico per fuori. Non sono tanto sociabile. È faccile pensare male sopra i svizzi o sopra i tedeschi, ma è un pregiudizio. Se tu vivi alla montagna, dove piove, fa neve tutti i giorni, non ho gioia. Ricordi i cartoni da Heidi? ehehehehehe.

    Posso essere perfettamente un orologlio svizzo o peggio. Sempre dipende ogni persona, sia da dove tu sia. Devi essere paziente. Amici ho pochi, ma gli amici non sono mai troppo; sopra trovare ragazze, lo stesso non si deve avere fretta. È come se un uomo non ha fidazanta e vuole averla come sia, mai ho avuto fidanzata, ho voluto ma il tempo decide.

    Un svizzo germano-parlante sicuro che può essere più allegro che io.

    Ho conosciuto un svizzo nella mia scuola ed era educato, normale, simpatico.

    Sicuro che voglio andare ad Italia per trovare lavoro e non posso parlare bene l'italiano perchè sono timmido. Sicuro che non voglio stare in Germania perchè sicuro che ho paura di non fare arrabbiare alla gente per parlare male tedesco.

    Spero aiutarti.

    Unsaluto.

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    Hello Augustine.

    For examplo I'm Spanish but not a very cheerful man, sympathetic to the outside. I am not so sociable. That is easey think ill over the Swiss and the Germans above, but is an prejudice. If you live in the mountains, where rain, snow does every day, I have no joy. Remember those cartoons from Heidi? ehehehehehe.

    Can be a perfectly watch Swiss or worse. Always depends on each person, is where you are. You have to be patient. I have few friends, but friends are never too much over finding the girls, the same can not be in a hurry. It is as if a man has fidazanta and wants it as it may, I never had girlfriends, I wanted to but time decide.

    A German-speaking Swiss Development sure that I can be more cheerful.

    I met a Swiss Development in my school and was polite, normal, likeable.

    Sure I want to go to Italy to find work and I can not speak Italian well because I'm shy. Sure I don't want to stay in Germany because I sure do not fear to anger the people to talk bad German.

    I hope help you.

    Greeting.

    Juan

  • Tracey Bryan

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    I know what it is like to move countries, I have done it seven times, (no I am not on the run, befdre any person asks me) and it is not easy.

    Ultimately it is your own responsibility to get out there and meet people, and if people are a little chilly, then keep on trying, I have the same in Austria, in the more provincial villages, they don't need any other person they have all lived there for generations and I very much understand that, but as the gent above sais, couchsurfers and places like these will get you meeting people.

    I have certainly made myself a good network of friends, since living here, in Austria, but then I am a pretty gregarious character and not afraid to strike up a conversation in a bar or even a group of people who look like they are having a great time.

    I have been in Switzerland and as a visitor, I certainly found the people to be distant but charming.

    Settling into a new country is an art from, not like it is in the Middle East, where it is full of ex pats or the US, where Americans are very engaging and welcoming, Europe does have her aloofness and she can not be so gracious on entry, although I think five years is a bit much, there must be something going wrong if no person has made friends in five years...

  • di land

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    i totally agree with you...soon we (my bfriend and I) gonna be there and facing to the same issue...maybe :) It was good to read your feedback and you never know maybe one day we gonna drink a coffe near Bern :)
    Take care!
    Rgrds, from Finland right now :)

  • mariann b

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    come on, I'm quite open-minded - during office hours! ;-) or try ronorp.net - it's in german for most cities, but there's an english version for zurich. the newsletter lists events that are not too mainstreamy, and since switzerland is a very small country, you'll soon start bumping into the people from the last concert/exhibition/whatever. then all you do is start conversation with 'haven't I seen at this thing and what did you think?' - or something of the kind.

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