Posted in Germany forum
I'm hearing lots of terrible stories about German men and their lack of romance. Is this true? Anybody got any "real-life experience"? :-)
German man
posted by Ms Arni in Germany forum
This discussion kinda funny, sometimes make me remember abt my german guy :D
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posted by Deleted user in Germany forum
we talk on facebook. sometimes im not sure if he likes me or he's just acts that way cause he's german
Your German
posted by NITA 9300 in Germany forum
How do you keep in contact? Are you in America? You have to understand that he is from a different culture and will not behave like American men.
I lost my German, and hoping to get him back soon. Working on it. When we started dating I didn't understand his ways so I came looking for answers. I wish I had someone with knowledge help me then. I understand and have learned so much since the breakup. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask.
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posted by Deleted user in Germany forum
he lives in karlsruhe. i just wanted to understand him better
Hi
posted by NITA 9300 in Germany forum
Hi Spence,
Don't worry, what part of Germany is your guy from? Is he living in the States or in Germany? Did you have any questions?
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posted by Deleted user in Germany forum
wow ,I dont know if I should be worried or scared after reading all of this, I just wanted to learn more about german men so I can better understand my german guy.
Dear women from all over the world...
posted by Deleted user in Germany forum
...German man comes in a variety of sizes and hair colours and complete with a free pair of Birkenstock sandals.
He may not look like much, or be very funny, he may not have a good dress sense (okay, he will surely not have great style) and he is about as romantic as, say, a very depressed Finn or two Swiss men (no offence!), BUT......he has a 10-year warranty against rust perforation, can be fed with a cheap diet of canned beer, spuds and meat-based products and may be capable of basic household maintenance.
German man has shown average to good relationship results if carefully trained. Get one now!German man can change
posted by Tegi Gongju in Germany forum
I just couldn't stop smiling reading your post. So funny and so glad that my German friend fit the description - almost entirely...but 6 months ago. I'm about as honest about my disapprovals of his behavior as he is about mine. I told him that in this country it is common curtesy for men to hold doors for women and never tell a woman that she's too chatty.
He got it! He still forgets to wait for me walking in the city - he's often an entire block ahead of me. I had to call him on the cell phone to wait when I got stuck at a red light and he just kept walking. But he tries to remember to hold the door and order food or drinks for me. He tells me that he likes my shoes (even the ones that slow me down). I think he appreciates that I am telling him about our cultural differences. He admitted also the other day that - although he might not chat too much - he likes listening to my chatty stories. : )
He's honest but learning not to be too brutally honest. Knowing when certain things are better left unsaid. it's not worth seeing me tearing through in a total rage. I think that he's changing for me. I think that's so sweet. He thinks about how i will react and will do things to get me to smile ... haven't gotten to the full all out laughter yet. We'll get there.
One thing I realize though - can't speak for all German men but just this one - I have to be careful what I say and how I touch him. A shove is too aggressive - for example. Touching his hair is out of the question - too forward. Making fun of his looks can really kill the moment - even when it's just teasing. I stopped teasing. he doesn't want to be thought as looking silly or ridiculous or the worst yet - stupid.
We're taking things slowly. We're getting to know each other first and learning to respect each other's differences and boundaries. Do I know how he cares for me? Absolutely. Is he going to do something about it? No way. Not until...I say very clearly and honestly that I feel the same too. He doesn't mean to be romantic but this has been quite an experience for me.